A bit overwhelmed.

[prefect42]

So tomorrow will be the birth of my second child. A boy, we are inducing at 8am. And while I am as happy as can be about this I am just feeling a bit overwhelmed. Because on top of the kiddo our house also was put under contract last week and we have until the end of January to find another place to live. And of course there is always the stress of work adding to things.

We put the house up for sale about 4 months ago hoping to have it sold and be in a new place by now. But no, we had lots of people look at it but up until last week no bites, then last week we had two separate people put in offers so after a bidding war winding up at asking price. The house was under contract. My wife had a house picked out that would have worked for us the entire time that we had our house up for sale and then two weeks ago the last of her back up houses sold without any others to take its place.

And at work my group is down one person so there is only two of us in the development team now. It has been approved for us to replace the open position but my boss has a couple other positions it wants to fill first in the IT dept so we have been waiting for those to get done. Meanwhile we have a 4 year backlog of projects and then he ( or our IT oversight committee ) never was sure which decided that our biggest products will be moving to an annual release with the next one to come out in six months.

So I am feeling a bit overwhelmed right now and just needed to vent a bit and didn't want to add any stress to the wife. She has enough going on without me whining about this to the person that is going to be giving birth tomorrow.

So anyone else need to vent? or have could methods for coping? Thanks for listening.

[Makita]

Walk out in the back yard (at night, here)
Drop your pants.
Howl at the moon.
(Seriously - a good howl/yell can always be helpful)

[Angie]

Best of luck to you.

One thing I've found-no matter how much worrying you do, what's going to happen is going to happen. You can either spend time worrying about it (like I do :o) or relax and deal with each issue as it comes.

You'll be fine. And good luck with everything!

[Fleegle]

I haven't been there exactly, but I understand overwhelmed. The day after I moved into my first house, I found out that the foundation has a number of cracks, some fairly bad, I think. Two days later, my company had a huge merger with another company 4 times larger than our own and I had no idea if I'd just lost my job or not.

I';m not particularly good at dealing with stress, so I don't know what to tell you. I tend to obsess over the little stuff and lose sleep. When the bigger stuff starts cropping up, I end up not sleeping for several days straight sometimes. Even sleeping pills don't help sometimes.

[prefect42]

Walk out in the back yard (at night, here)
Drop your pants.
Howl at the moon.
(Seriously - a good howl/yell can always be helpful)

:2funny: Hmm. That may work in Montana but I don't know about the city I live in especially since it there is an school across the street from my backyard.

One thing I've found-no matter how much worrying you do, what's going to happen is going to happen

Thanks, that is always good advice and something I usually try to live by, but there are moments when you forget that. Plus I have generalized Anxiety so I a worry normally but have really been learning to deal with it in recent years but usually part of that is talking the things through with my wife and her helping me. So I don't have my normal outlet for some of this stuff right now and besides my worries are so minute compared to hers at this moment.

Thanks everyone, sometimes it just helps to get it out there and not be keeping it inside. even just the process of typing it out helps you think it through and process the info.

[Angie]

:2funny: Hmm. That may work in Montana but I don't know about the city I live in especially since it there is an school across the street from my backyard.



Thanks, that is always good advice and something I usually try to live by, but there are moments when you forget that. Plus I have generalized Anxiety so I a worry normally but have really been learning to deal with it in recent years but usually part of that is talking the things through with my wife and her helping me. So I don't have my normal outlet for some of this stuff right now and besides my worries are so minute compared to hers at this moment.

Thanks everyone, sometimes it just helps to get it out there and not be keeping it inside. even just the process of typing it out helps you think it through and process the info.
*nod nod* Yep, I know!

[Makita]

:2funny: Hmm. That may work in Montana but I don't know about the city I live in especially since it there is an school across the street from my backyard.
Well, if you HAVE to leave the pants on, so be it! :p Stoopit schools and common descency laws anyway!

Either way a good Cathargic howl may be in order for ya. Take a Run (not Jog, run) get the endorphines going...

[prefect42]

Thanks Makita, a howl may be in order.

Just woke up and the overwhelmed feeling has been pretty much replaced with a sense of excitement. Today I will get to see my son being born and get to meet this little person we have been talking to for the last nine months. I can't wait to introduce him to his big sister, she has been calling him "My Connor" for the past few weeks so I think she is kind of excited about it also.

Thanks everyone for you help and Thanks Marc for a place to share. It is nice to have a community to go to when you have those moments when it feels like the world is on your shoulders.

Well wish us luck we leave for the doctors in one hour. I hope for my wife that this one goes as well as the last.

[firerose818]

Congratulations on your new son!

No words of wisdom for the feelings of being overwhelmed, but best wishes for your growing family.

[procrastinator]

Congratulations on your new little one, and good for you not to dump this on your wife right now.

Just try to focus on one thing at a time. There's nothing you can do about all of this mounting up at the same time, so just try to handle the parts you can deal with one at a time.

And try the howl. It can't hurt. And don't turn down help from friends and family if they offer.

--Debbie

[Sue Ann]

Congrats on the birth of your new son !

Can you afford to take a week or two of "maternity leave" or FLMA time ?

[prefect42]

Ok, well just got home from the hospital, everything went great I am the very proud papa of a 6lb 4oz baby boy. The delivery went great and wife is doing well. We are both very tired.

And I am taking off the next week and a half to help the wife out and spend time with my 2 year old not to mention the new little one. The wife is a stay at home mom so the 2 year old is use to a lot of attention. And after I go back to work my mother-in-law is going to spend a couple weeks with us helping out.

So that should help with everything.

[Angie]

Woo! Good to hear everything went smoothly!

[eddyj]

Congrats!

[Makita]

Gratz, Man!

Oh, I wouldn't try the howl around the Baby and Mother in Law. Baby Cried like crazy, The Mother in law Freaks out, thinks you are going to eat the baby...
...not a pretty sight.

Named Connor. We going to see Baby pics of him wearing a Kilt or Plaid Diapers?
:)

[prefect42]

Named Connor. We going to see Baby pics of him wearing a Kilt or Plaid Diapers?
:)

Already tried to order the kilt but the wife won't let me, I might still wear her down on this one. :D

[stargazer21]

Congratulations!

[thevargasgrl]

Already tried to order the kilt but the wife won't let me, I might still wear her down on this one. :D
You order it without her knowing, THEN you work on convincing her to let you put it on the kid. Much easier to accomplish.
Congrats.

[tase2]

Congrats on the new member and glad to hear everyone is doing well.

[Boot]

Congratulations!!

[procrastinator]

Congratulations! I have a son named Connor, too, and not to scare you or anything, but my Connor is an incredible handful... :2funny: ;)

--Debbie

[prefect42]

Congratulations! I have a son named Connor, too, and not to scare you or anything, but my Connor is an incredible handful... :2funny: ;)

--Debbie

Well my 2 years old is a handful but she takes after her mother :D .

So far Connor is taking after me. Lethargic, sleeps a lot, all about eating. That and he hardly ever cries and is really hard to get riled up, I have two chatterboxes as is (wife and 2 yr old) so I really hope he keeps up the quite mode.

[prefect42]

Oh and now introducing Connor
http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y74/prefect421/Connor.jpg

[eddyj]

That is one hairy baby! :p

[procrastinator]

He's adorable, Prefect! Congratulations again to your and your wife.

--Debbie

[Angie]

Aw. Cute!

[betamax]

Congrats!

[AJRitz]

Congrats Prefect. I'm in almost the same boat you are (minus the house issues, but with some nasty student loan debt issues). All I can say is - hang in there. There's no easy solution to any of this stuff. As much of a cynic as I am, I've adopted a Professor Pangloss philosophy as a way to survive - "Everything will work out for the best, in this best of all possible worlds." :D

[prefect42]

I am feeling much better now then when I did the original post. It could just be the happiness and joy associated with the birth of my son. But either way I will take it.

Yeah, usually I take the approach of things will work out one way or another so just go with it but was just having pre baby jitters I guess. Thanks for all the kind words everyone.

[Michael]

I love how Conner is looking at you in the picture... Congrats!!!!